My name is Teri Akers and I am from NM.  I came upon this website while working on some for my family that has passed.  I am so sorry for your loss.  From what I have read and the pictures and music he must hae been an AWESOME person.  I am sure he is watching over all of you now.  May God Bless your family and friends and may he never be forgotten.

Please see my families websites Jerry Webb, Linda Webb and Christy Webb.  Again I am so sorry and God Bless!

Spence~

A day doesn't go by without me talking or thinking about you.  I will say that keeping a journal and talking about you to other people is what is helping me from going crazy.  I never thought a day would come where I would have to say goodbye to you forever.  Sometimes I feel like this is all a dream and that you are going to be walking off a plane any minute now.  But deep down inside I know that I will never be able to see or hear from you again and it kills me inside.  I will always keep the memories of you alive until my time comes. Until we meet again I just want to say I will always love you and miss you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love~
Tracey

Spencer,

Just was thinking about you and missing you too.  Jb "Roo Roo" decided that we needed to write a letter to God and have him give it to your soul letting you know we miss you.  He still doesn't quite understand what I mean when I talk about you dying...he knows mom cries alot and asks why I had always told him that dying wasn't a bad thing but appears to be now.  I just tell him that it's not that having you pass away is a bad thing because your living in a wonderful place of never ending bliss and dancing on the streets that are golden, happier then you have ever been in your whole life....but that doesn't change the fact that your missed or that for the time being until God brings us back home we can't spend time with you. 

Whenever he has a balloon and lets it go and it flies away up to the sky, he tells me that he decided to let God have it.  We decided to write you a letter and send it to you on a balloon....if God can get balloons...so can "the pickle"

With more love then you ever knew,

Kimberly and the "mushroom"

Grief is not what happens to you....
loss is what happens to you.

Any loss, be it physical, emotional, or material will precipitate grief.

LOSS is loosing something or someone of value.

Grief is the only appropriate response to a loss.

Grief with it's many ups and downs last far longer
than society in general recognizes.
Be patient with yourself.

Each person's grief is individual.
You, your friends and family will experience it and cope with it differently.

Crying is an acceptable and healthy expression of grief
and releases built up tension.
Cry freely as you feel the need.

Physical reactions to the loss of a friend might include loss of
appetite or over eating, as well as sleeplessness.
You may find that you have very little energy and cannot concentrate.  A balanced diet, rest and moderate exercise are especially important for you.

Friends and relatives may be uncomfortable around you.
They want to ease your pain but do not know how.
Take the initiative and help them learn how to be supportive for you.

Whenever possible, put off major decisions such as...
changing residence, changing jobs, etc., for at least a year.

Guilt, real or imagined is a normal part of grief.
It surfaces in thoughts and feelings of  "If Only".
In order to resolve this guilt, learn to express and share these feelings and learn to forgive yourself.

Anger is another common reaction to loss...
Anger, like guilt, needs expression and sharing in a healthy manner.

Loss often causes a person to challenge and examine
his or her faith or philosophy of life.
Don't be disturbed if you are questioning old beliefs.
Talk about it.
For many, faith offers help to accept the unacceptable.

It helps to become involved in a group of family and friends having similar experiences; sharing eases the loneliness and promotes the expression of your grief in an atmosphere of acceptance and understanding.

Thank you Kim

When i was little, Spence played on my step dad's men's softball team.He alway's used to play around with me.But now it's hard for me to belive that the man i that i saw as a softball player, is now an American hero.

 
Why must our hearts keep grieving,
Why do we feel so alone?
Why did you take our loved one God,
Why couldn't he stay at home?
Why did he have to feel pain,
Why did he have to die?
Why can't we go to sleep at night,
Why do we have to cry?

'My children,' said God, 'please understand,
I know your grief runs deep,
I've heard your many questions
In your prayers before you sleep;
I promised all eternity,
No death shall shadow you,
Your loved ones dwell with me above,
Up in those skies so blue;
They live with me in Heaven,
This place is their real home,
Their time on earth was through,
They learned to love, I called them home.
Your loved one is an Angel now,
Watching closely over thee,
There is no fear or pain up here,
Their soul is roaming free.
I let your loved one visit you
As you lie down in your bed,
He holds your hand and helps you pray
And gently strokes your head.
So please stop asking why he left
And dry your weary eyes,
For he is safe from harm on earth
With me, in the Heavenly skies.'

Merry Christmas to all and thank you for paying tribute to such a great man on this holiday. Remember all the troops stationed away from their families this Christmas. Merry Christmas to the Aker's family, I know that this is hard. Merry Christmas to Spencer as he spends this one with Jesus. Thank you again and Merry Christmas.

Merry Christmas Darling,

   After asking all the "why's" and "if's", we all must come to the realization that everything happens for a reason.  We may never understand how this could happen to someone so wonderful, but it will never change who you were or the awesome sacrifice you made for all your family and friends.  May God Bless those who are mourning your loss and may you Rest In Peace.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will direct your paths.  Proverbs 3:5-6

Never to be forgotten, you will be remembered always!

Kimberly
Merry Christmas 2005